A book a month: Michelle Obama's "Becoming"




This new year, yours truly decided to finish a book a month, as a resolution.

As it happens with a lot of experiences, the essence of a book tends to be forgotten over a period. This is an attempt to reflect on what I get from each book I read through the year.

I started reading the book as a self-confessed fan of the Obamas. I admire the way they speak, the poise and dignity in their public conduct. Though I have no view on Obama’s policies and performance as a President, I find his speeches  powerful and there is something about the way he speaks that makes you route for him. Like everyone, I remember Michelle’s “When they go low, we go high”, speech for Hillary Clinton.  While I found Madame Tussauds in NYC extremely dull, the Obamas were among the few spots I felt like taking a picture  (though the wax replicas were terrible).


(Michelle's Democratic Convention Speech - if you have not watched it yet)

At the end of the book what struck me about “Becoming”, was the extraordinary journey of the Obama family . A man who starts his political career in his early thirties, runs for President and becomes one by the time he is 47. I can’t imagine someone running for and winning the highest political office in that time frame – almost sounds too good to be true. Like Barack Obama says “ I was a skinny guy with a funny name. The odds were not  for us. No one could pronounce my name and I had never won a national campaign”.      ( Watch this video where he tells the “Fired up , ready to go” story  - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5AhRqg0ADbk  )



Fan fascination aside , the book is first and foremost, Michelle’s story – one that everyone with a modest upbringing can identify with. The book is divided into three parts  -Becoming me, Becoming us and Become more – dedicated to her childhood journey, meeting Barack Obama , starting a family and their life in the White House. I enjoyed the first two parts the most -  where Michelle shares her personal story as a girl from the South Side of Chicago.

An auto biography is not just about the person. It   gives you an insight into the political and socio-economic background in the period of narration, the way people lived and raised a family.  Michelle talks about her humble life in a part of Chicago which saw a “White Flight” , the values her parents raised her with and the role her brother played in her life.

I instantly connected to her narration of her parents , whose only aim was for their children to have opportunity to lead better lives than they did.  A simple family  that believed in hard work, lived within their means, stuck to what they had and hoped for more.  She gets into Ivy league schools on her own merit and builds a career for herself, all while trying to answer the question – “Am I good enough?”  This is a question that pops up a lot when in doubt. The only answer to this, as Michelle narrates, is to shift focus on doing your best with the job at hand. The question will take care of itself.

I also found identifying with her on being a “Checklist ticker”. Be a good student. Check. Get yourself a professional qualification. Check. Be a good daughter. Check. Get a paycheck and a house. Check. Turn into a half decent person. Check. But after a point, you start to question what your purpose is. Amen sister.


Of all the characters she introduces us to, my personal favorite, is her mother – Marian Robinson – She stands by her children at all points without being judgmental about their choices or imposing her thoughts on them.   

Michelle Obama gives us an account of her life, as real as it gets – her short comings, skepticism of her husband’s directions, her own apprehensions of his attempts, reluctance to let go of her own ambitions while realizing her husbands would consume them anyway. There are absolutely no parts in the book which get into praise mode (such as describing how great and accomplished Barack Obama is).  I liked that she has remained true to the book being her story, from her perspective. She talks about the times when her focus swayed away from what the children were eating. Malia ends up sick from eating a whole lot of processed food – which turns Michelle’s interest towards healthier food habits. She admits her penchant for health and fitness came from necessity – inspired by the chef she hired to cook at home, when she was out campaigning. Also admirable, is the ways she juggled home and campaigned extensively with a bunch of staff. Michelle recounts how she was seen as an “angry black woman” first, switched gears on her presentation skills and improvised her public speeches.

She recounts life in the White House as equally challenging as it seems luxurious – raising two children for 8 years in the spotlight while trying to give them as normal a childhood as possible. (Watch out for a particular narration -  where she runs out with Malia to see the lit up White House  from outside with the crowd,  the day Gay marriage was made legal in all states). 

There is no denying that the Obamas are extremely charming as a family – dignified, graceful and almost infallible from a conduct standpoint.   





(Note how he calls her " Michelle LaVaughn Robinson"   -  “ you took on a job you did not ask for, and you made it your own” ) .  But “Becoming” is not just for Obama fans.  It gives you a heartwarming narrative of their journey, through Michelle’s eyes.  It drives home  the power of hard work meeting opportunity.

That’s my January attempt. In February, I am reading Cal Newport’s “Deep work”.  Hope to finish soon and write about it. 


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